We can all relate to wanting to feel loved by those around us. We see this idea constantly in movies and across social media, yet seeing this so often can cause us to doubt if we even deserve the kind of love that we witness. The doubt in your head didn't just randomly appear; it's a story that has been written into you through all of your experiences, starting as far back as childhood. That story has likely become entangled into who you think you are, but the real power is inrecognizing that this narrative doesn't serve you (or something like this). Through self-care, positive affirmations , and other wellness techniques , we are able to rewrite our narrative and become our best selves.
The Origins of Unworthiness The way we receive love as children can often impact how we search for love in our adult lives. Maybe we only received affirmations when we had an academic achievement or met others' expectations. By learning that love should be earned instead of something we are inherently deserving of, we begin to feel as though we must prove ourselves to everyone around us. In reality, we are all deserving of love by our birthright. This includes love from friends, family, community and more.
Similarly to how we receive love as children, our first romantic relationships are also formative for how we seek out and experience love. Rejection , betrayal, or emotional neglect can reinforce the belief that you're fundamentally unlovable, creating protective walls that keep both pain and love at bay. Love has no exact timeline. When comparing our situations to those around us, both friends and on social media, we begin to doubt whether or not our love is good enough.
Social Media often shows us snippets of relationships online without seeing the depths or struggles that those couples may be facing. Seeing these examples so consistently can cause us to forget what real, meaningful relationships look like. It is healthy to remind yourself when scrolling past all of the couple goals, that no relationship is perfect no matter how it seems.
The impossible standards we set for ourselves and the need to outwardly impress others create a perpetual gap between who we are and who we believe we need to be to deserve love. We will often tell ourselves that "we will find love once we achieve [x] thing." The reality is that there is no better time than another to search for love. When we use love as a reward for achieving tasks, we no longer view it as something we are deserving of love.
How Unworthiness Manifests in Your Life The first step to rewriting our own story comes from recognizing how our issues may be impacting our lives now. When dealing with issues pertaining to self-perception, we may not even realize how much these beliefs impact us. When operating from unworthiness, you might notice:
Self-sabotaging promising relationships Settling for less than you deserve Seeking validation excessively Difficulty accepting compliments or love People-pleasing at the expense of your own needs Feeling like an impostor when someone loves you These patterns create a self-fulfilling prophecy that confirms your unworthy beliefs, strengthening the narrative cycle. When you do these things, the Universe is unable to send you the love you are deserving of. The Universe needs you to have space in your life for love, needs you to feel deserving of love, and needs you to feel empowered by love before it can send you the relationships you are manifesting.
Manifestation as a Path to Healing Manifestation is an incredibly powerful tool because it allows us to overhaul our mental framework. Beyond attracting a text from a crush or a new job offer, manifestation teaches us how to love ourselves better and support our highest self at every step of our journey. The Law of Attraction unlocks powerful secrets within the Universe that help us get clear aboutwho we are and what we truly want for ourselves. When we know these things, we are in our divine power. Here's how to use manifestation principles to rewrite your story:
1. Become Aware of Your Current Story The first step in transformation is awareness. Notice the specific thoughts about your worthiness that run through your mind. When do they appear? What triggers them? Journal about the earliest memories of feeling unworthy of love. Oftentimes, journaling about our self-worth is most effective when we take initiative to understand not only our current selves but our past selves.
A great way to get started if you are feeling overwhelmed is to explore shadow work prompts. Shadowwork is the term for getting to know our subconscious on a deeper level. Shadow work prompts are able to unlock our most authentic views of ourselves and taking time to work on this can cause our manifestations to come to us even more quickly!
This isn't about assigning blame but understanding the roots of your beliefs so they can be consciously transformed. When we become aware of the way we talk to ourselves, we can better understand our thoughts and actions. As we learned earlier, our thoughts control our reality. When we are then able to control our thoughts, we can now take ownership of our minds and lives.
2. Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs Rewriting your mental story should be taken literally. A great example exercise is to come up with five negative things that you may feel about yourself. This works best when written down. For each unworthiness belief you've identified, ask yourself:
Is this absolutely true? Where did I learn this? How has believing this served me? What evidence exists that contradicts this belief? Remember that many of these beliefs formed when you were too young to question their validity. When we see some of the negative ways in which we perceive ourselves, we often realize how silly our negative thoughts are. The second part of this exercise is rooted in shifting our reality to one that better serves us.
3. Create a New Story of Worthiness Once you answer the above questions, take those five negative things and shift them to positive things. Manifestation is all about perception. Sometimes the biggest way to change your reality is simply based on changing how you view your reality. Now, it's time to consciously author a new narrative. For each negative comment, change it to be a positive statement:
If you say something like, "I let people take advantage of me," a way to shift that perspective would be to say, "I am empathetic, and my desires are as important as those around me." If you say something like, "I will never find love because I've always been single," try saying, "The Universe is patiently waiting to send me the love I deserve because I am worth something extraordinary." There is endless power in positive thinking and even greater power in positive thinking about yourself. Going beyond rewriting negative thoughts, when we say positive affirmations about ourselves, we solidify our confidence and worthiness. If you are having doubts about where to start with positive affirmations, Manifest will generate endless custom meditations for whatever is on your mind.
4. Embody Your New Story Manifestation works through the Law of Assumption—you attract what you embody. Practice living as if your new story is already true. When you act as if you already have what you desire, the Universe will send it to you even more quickly. The Law of Assumption states that the key to achieving your dreams is to assume they are already yours and to let go of any anxieties you may be facing around this desire. Here are a few smaller and general ways you can use the Law of Assumption to rewrite your narrative:
Make decisions from a place of worthiness Set boundaries that honor your value Notice and celebrate evidence of being loved Treat yourself with the compassion you'd offer a beloved friend This might feel uncomfortable at first—that's normal. You're rewriting your story, which can feel overwhelming or nerve-wracking. Try to reframe these nerves as excitement for the new life you are attracting for yourself.
The Deeper Truth About Worthiness The ultimate paradox of worthiness is that you've always been worthy of love. Nothing you've done or failed to do has changed this fundamental truth. Reminding ourselves that love is our fate by divine right will only make our lives betterby speeding up our manifestations and also solidifying our self-worth.
We all have doubts and moments in which we waver, but through new tools like Manifest , we have something to talk to when these feelings arise. Once we learn how to recognize a limiting belief when it comes to mind, we now have the ability to rewrite our story immediately. Using Manifest, you can vent about your thoughts, and you will instantly receive a positive affirmation that fits your current situation.
A Daily Practice to Strengthen Your New Story Each morning, upon waking, place your hand over your heart and affirm :
"I am already worthy of all the love I desire. Today, I open myself to receiving this love in expected and unexpected ways. I am safe to be seen, known, and loved exactly as I am."
Remember that rewriting deep beliefs takes time and compassion. There will be days when old anxieties resurface. When they do, recognize them as echoes of the past rather than reflections of your true nature, and gently return to your new narrative of inherent worthiness. Manifest will always be in your back pocket to guide you along your journey to confidence.
You deserve love not because of what you do but because of who you are. And as you embrace this truth, watch how the Universe conspires to prove it to you in the most beautiful ways.
FAQs What is the Manifest App and how does it support mental wellness? Manifest in the Apple App Store to start your journey.)
How do affirmations and manifesting benefit mental health? reframe negative thought patterns into encouraging ones, boosting self-esteem and optimism over time. Manifesting — the practice of setting clear intentions for what you want in life — can increase motivation and give you a sense of purpose. Many people find that these practices reduce stress and anxiety by promoting a more hopeful, focused mindset. While techniques like affirmations are not a replacement for professional therapy when needed, they are valuable tools in a holistic wellness routine to support your mental well-being.
